Beyourself;everyoneelseisalreadytaken.-OscarWilde
It'squitepossiblythemostcommonlyusedphraseinthehistoryofadvice:Beyourself.Butit'ssuchavagueadage.Whatdotheyreallymeanwhentheytellyoutobeyourself?Andisitreallyaseasyasitsounds?
1.Findyourself.Youcan'tbeyourselfifyoudon'tknow,understand,andacceptyourselffirst.
2.Stopcaringabouthowpeopleperceiveyou.Thefactis,itreallydoesn'tmatter.It'simpossibletobeyourselfwhenyou'recaughtupinwonderingDotheythinkI'mfunny?DoesshethinkI'mfat?DotheythinkI'mstupid?Tobeyourself,you'vegottoletgooftheseconcernsandjustletyourbehaviorflow,withonlyyourconsiderationofothersasafilter—nottheirconsiderationofyou.
3.Behonestandopen.Whathaveyougottohide?You'reanimperfect,growing,learninghumanbeing.Ifyoufeelashamedorinsecureaboutanyaspectofyourself—andyoufeelyouhavetohidethosepartsofyou,whetherphysicallyoremotionally—thenyouhavetocometotermswiththatandlearntoconvertyourso-calledflawsintoinpidualisticquirks.
4.
Relax.Stopworryingabouttheworstthatcouldhappen,especiallyinsocialsituations.Sowhatifyoufallflatonyourface?Orgetspinachstuckinyourteeth?Learntolaughatyourselfbothwhenithappensandafterwards.Turnitintoafunnystorythatyoucansharewithothers.Itletsthemknowthatyou'renotperfectandmakesyoufeelmoreatease,too.
5.Developandexpressyourinpiduality.Whetherit'syoursenseofstyle,orevenyourmannerofspeaking,ifyourpreferredwayofdoingsomethingstraysfromthemainstream,thenbeproudofit.
6.HaveaProductiveDay.Acceptthatsomedaysyou'rethepigeon,andthatsomedays,you'rethestatue.Peoplemightraiseeyebrowsandevenmakefun,butaslongasyoucanshrugandsayHey,that'sjustmeandleaveitatthat,peoplewillultimatelyrespectyouforit,andyou'llrespectyourself.
7.Believeinwhoyouare.Ifyou'realwaysworkingtobesomeoneyou'renot,you'llneverbeahappyperson.Beyourselfandshowtheworldyou'reproudthewayyouare!Yeaanddon'tforgetthatbeingyourselfandhonestyisthebestpolicy!
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